I'm Lovable, You're Lovable

It's love wellness:  I'm lovable, you're lovable

Even if "falling in love" is acknowledged and attributed to the one who loves us, we should not fail to recognize or take for granted our own lovableness.

How we treat "falling in love" is important. Sometimes, it may even be a dis-ease. A careless or rush decision can cause a painful love sickness that may prevent the development of an enduring love or "opening to love."

As we grow up, we build walls around our hearts to protect our true feelings from fear of being hurt or rejected. What are these walls? We can easily identify some of them from experience – restrained actions, controlled feelings, numbed senses, cautious thoughts, timid glances, hypochondria, and if I may add, too much refined behaviors.


Then we meet someone "special." Suddenly, the wall protecting our tender heart begins to tumble down. We open up. We break our silence. To borrow a phrase from Camelot: "We flung wide our prison doors!" We enter then fall into the presence of love. Because this experience of falling in love is activated magically by another person, we attribute the source of love only to that person.

When we attribute that experience of our love only to the presence of the other person, there may be a tendency to overlook or recognize our own love-worth or lovableness. As we become dependent on another for our sense of worth we might overlook our own perceptions of ourselves and lose discovery of our own value, something that can only be measured by our own perception.

When we understand that the love we see reflected in another's acceptance is recognition of who we really are, we begin to accept that we are truly loved, and we feel lovable. As we listen to the ones we love with their deepest feelings and needs, they too will feel loved and be lovable.